When having a child, most think of the mother. Starting with the beginning of pregnancy with morning sickness, the the feeling of change, hormones are all out of wack, and the first time she can feel the fluttering of her little one. Through these times it is really easy to strengthen the bond with her mother, she understand what she is going through wile her husband does not.
This can be a dangerous place to allow yourself to get. Fathers are very important in a child's life and the media tries to take them out of the picture by saying they are worthless and have no clue what they are doing. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-long-reach-childhood/201106/the-importance-fathers in this article given by Ditta M. Oliker Ph.D said "Children with involved, caring fathers have better educational outcomes. The influence of a father's involvement extends into adolescence and young adulthood." so what can we do as mother to help our husbands have a better relationship with our children.
Well some ideas are to start right with pregnancy. Explain what you are feeling, the fluttering, the kicks, have him feel your belly! Have him take birthing classes with you! (not dissing on doulas) but have your husband be the one helping you when giving birth if possible. Make him feel like he is apart of the team.
After baby comes, don't have family come right away! Allow you and your spouse to figure it all out! by doing this you have to rely on each other and you will strengthen the bond between you and him and the baby!
Speak kindly of the father to your children, Explain to them the importance he has in your family. encourage playtime with dad. By taking small step in strengthening your family and having an environment of love, your children will be much better off.
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