C O P I N G

When the unfortunate event happens in your life that is either a stressor or a crisis. How do you handle events like this? Some might shut down and some might take this opportunity to change and become better. These are both methods of coping.

     I would like to share a little about myself and what coping methods tore me down and which ones built me up. Through the past couple years I have discovered the challenge it will be for myself to have a baby. I had always dreamed of having the opportunity to carry a sweet growing child inside me for 9 months, being the first to hold a brand new life in my arms, being able to fix a "boo boo" with a kiss. I often would think about playing tea parties, superheros, dinosaurs with my children. I even would think often about tricks on how to have my kids enjoy healthy food! Shortly after I was married I began to get nervous. It was not happening as fast as I had expected. The frustration grew as others around me were blessed with the only thing I felt was missing in my life. I didn't understand what the plan was or why I had to go through this. I became more upset with ever announcement that was made. I chose to not do much of anything hoping it would all just fix its self, I thought that maybe all my friends were right and that maybe I was too stressed, or maybe I needed to track everything differently.
     But nothing ever changed so I decided to to start going to a Dr. to see what they could find out. I started leaning more on my Heavenly Father for guidance and direction on what I should do in the meantime while i waited for my turn. I decided to go back to school for marriage and family studies. As I began sharing with more friends what I had and am going through, I was able to help other on their journey as well. I have become more happy with this Trial, Stressor, or Crisis (however you may put it). I have grown to recognize all the many other blessings I have in my life. I am so grateful that I was able to learn how to better cope so that I could grow.